(Author’s Note) I did not set out this year to do sports articles. However, I did enjoy doing the two about the Blazers and positive reader response has prompted me to do one more.
THE NUMEROLOGY AND MYSTERY OF JAMES HARDEN Lynn Buess, MA, EdS
James Harden is a very talented and often controversial NBA player. Throughout his career he has attracted a variety of viewpoints and opinions regarding his performance, along with his personal antics off of the court as well. Perhaps the numbers can yield some additional clues regarding his personality and behavior.
The numbers for James Edward Harden Junior are as follows:
69=15=15=6 Personality Number
36=9 Soul Number
105=6 Integrated Self Number
and 43=7 Life Number
This combination of numbers is often associated with a child growing up in a home where the parent’s marriage that was most likely emotionally volatile and codependent. There is frequently divorce or separation in the family when this combination appears. The double dose of the number six suggests some form of emotional abuse was experienced during his youth. This can be in the form of negative emotional reinforcement by one or both of the parents. With the 7 life number it would appear to have been more what I call passive abuse.
Passive abuse is an absence of emotional warmth and healthy nurturing that every child seeks and needs from both parents for a healthful development. It can be seen as coldness, purposeful silence or what is called in therapy frozen feelings on the part of the parent or parents. A child growing up in such an environment ends up with a huge empty space or void in their emotional development. This contributes to excessive neediness and what I call “little boy desperately looking for attention” syndrome. Such a child is constantly looking for validation and conformation of his/her goodness, worthiness or ability. He/she will do almost anything to get attention so desperately needed. Thus, the brilliant behavior followed by incredibly immature rashness and error.
It cases like this is most likely the father grew up with similar emotional surroundings and the inner child never did grow up and mature. His injured and insecure self- image would see the son (in this case James junior) as a threat and competitor, rather than being able to provide a mature and stable confident male role model for his son. Thus, rather than being a mature father, he was most likely similarly detached and was not able to establish mature bonding with his son.
With a 9 Soul Number one way the child may try to get approval is by being perfect (one major characteristic of those with 9). The injured and needy little child within is say “please mommy, please daddy see how I do things so well? Please love me!” Underneath the drive toward perfection is a troubled and emotionally conflicted child (now within a grown adult). This conflict of emotional needs leads to erratic and unpredictable behavior.
Having a 7 life number is often indicative of an individual who becomes isolated and reclusive while living in a detached mental world that explains away the hurt and pain associated with the past neglect. The defensive and defiant 7 says, “I don’t give a damn what they say, I am going to do what I am going to do.” That could include hiding behind his outlandish beard that gets him a lot of attention, but is generally regarded as “dorky” by the majority of observers (with the exception of diehard Houston Rocket fans).
All together this combination suggests the potential for enormous emotional stress that leads to extremes of behavior, and mixed reactions from those who observe the person. This might help one to understand the wide range of titles and perceptions of James Harden from fans and the press. For example:
The Sixth Man Award
Bearded King of Whine and Flop
Olympic Gold Medalist
NBA MVP Candidate
Uncrunch Time,Crunch Time, Oops Uncrunch Time
NBA All Star First Team
Interestingly enough this combination is often one associated with talented musicians, artists or other intuitively creative souls. He may benefit both creatively and from a catharsis point of view by exploring such potential. Such a thought can be intimidating to a “macho” focused person. His pattern is a relatively common one among American male children, and some time spent with the right professional practitioner could contribute to the likelihood of significant healing process. If he takes that step toward emotional healing, we could most likely see a future James Harden whose performance would be more confident, consistent, mature and dazzling.